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Addiction Patterns. The Patterns of Addiction including the needy baby.
Patterns of Addiction
The Needy Baby Pattern of Addiction There is a part within each one of us that still thinks that we are a "baby" and that we still need nourishing from our parents, from our friends and from our relationships. Even if you have the most wonderful parents in the world who have been taking care of you ever since you were a child, there can still be an amount of pain inside you that you want to voice out but nobody seems to be listening, or want to listen to you. There are instances where you receive messages that tell you to stop doing that, to suppress your feelings or just literally, to grow up. These messages seem a little bit harsh but even if it was done in the most gentle manner, we can feel angry and attacked inside, and when we express all of these as inner children, there is hardly a positive response from others. This heightens the angry needy child within and this results in a response of anger and judgment. So, in effect, what then happens to all of these parts which haven't been completely healed yet? What happens to these parts which are harboring a state of denial and which are having a hard time expressing all of these needy baby feelings? The most obvious outcome would be for this person to hide his true feelings and resort to "hiding." They try to get their needs filled with an outward stimulus that seems pleasurable and delectable. This is where they try to pour out their feelings and express them negative ways. What they do is really simple: they try to assign labels to people, places and things that tell them that these are the things that they really need and that if they can have these things, then they will be satisfied and happy. But of course, all of these things are not really eternal. They are just temporary. What the needy baby can do is to cry fully so that he can heal old wounds and in this way, he can bring out all the negative feelings that are stored inside. When this happens, the needy baby can be nurtured and fed, and there are several ways in which to fulfill the needs of the needy baby. The pain and the hurt would then gradually diminish. Prisoner of War Pattern of Addiction In this kind of addictive pattern, the subconscious feels detached from the other parts of the personality and feels that it is being judged. It feels that it is separated from the parts which matter, such as the heart, the mind and the soul and is the divine. When this kind of feeling dominates, it's as if the whole weight of anxiety, panic, depression, repression, suppression and weightlessness creeps in. It looks as if there is actually no way out. When all of these things happen, the subconscious now becomes angry and there is hatred in its heart. He backs up into one corner of the room and now becomes a prisoner of war, a child who is hungry for the situations that would make him better. It then starts to take it whatever it deems enjoyable to it whatever the cost and whatever the pleasure is. The conscious mind then enters into conflict with the subconscious but when the mind does this, the subconscious often takes control over the situation. Drug addicts usually experience this kind of situation sort of like a feeling of being "unconscious" such as gorging on a piece of cake without even realizing it, going from one department store to another and buying everything that you think you need without even realizing it, or spending too much money on betting on something without being aware of it. There are two pleasurable things that the "prisoner of war" benefits from here. The first is that the obvious enjoyment of the food, drugs, gambling, shopping, spending or whatever. But the second feeling that this person experiences is a feeling of control, that he is able to "steal" something and be in control. This person actually experiences great power in stealing something, despite how morbid, despite how appalling it could be, and even up to putting the life of this person in great danger. For this person, possessing great power is pleasurable. Self-Hatred / Death Wish Pattern of Addiction There are various faces of self-hatred but addiction is considered the most sinister. Obviously, the things that we are addicted to are not really good for our bodies and spirits. Whether things are taken in small amounts or in large amounts or being constantly taken, it could lead to addiction. Self-hatred is quite similar to a little devil on our shoulder egging us on and encouraging us to take more of that substance. This little devil whispers sweet nothings in our ears and even gives out negative comments if you don't follow his orders. His techniques are based on the thought that you are too weak and too vulnerable to resist, and he keeps taunting us to go on with this type of addiction. When this happens, it really gets very nasty. This little voice in our heads then exceeds the boundaries and tries another tactic: that of telling us that we are awful, bad, horrible, dumb and all kinds of negative things. If we have a drug problem or a liquor problem, this little devil inside us gathers all the bad information about that you have done under the influence and this will serve as his weapon to nag you later on. The self-hatred becomes destructive, to the point of having a death wish being repeated in your ear. Even though the death wish in itself is outside your consciousness, it delivers in more ways than one and tries to fulfill your death wish after all. The worst kinds of scenarios in terms of addiction are those that gives us pleasure at the onset and then drag us down to the pit until you begin to feel depressed and death is now your number one priority.
Chipping Pattern of Addiction This pattern of addiction means that the person is not really dependent on a substance but the person still maintains a "controlled" usage of the drug. This is implemented by avoiding the major influences that could contribute to this drug dependence, such that the drug is used for relaxation and rejuvenation and not escape. There is a term for this recreational substance use.
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