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NLP Neuro-linguistic Programming Meta Models and Meta Programs.
NLP Neuro-linguistic Programming Meta Models
John Grinder and Richard Bandler introduced and developed the meta model of NLP to create a wider dimension of a person's view of the world. It involves questions that narrow down information and illustration so that you can make your own limitless perspective on an object or event. The meta model makes use of language but you may or may not be completely aware of everything that is communicated. There are three processes involved in the semantics and grammar usage of the meta model.
1. Deletion. You may have various thoughts in your head pertaining to a story or circumstance but you don't have to say everything to give your listener a full view. Deleting terms or ideas can be done without disturbing the overall thought of your story. However, some unspecified details leave the mind wondering. Here are some examples of deletion.
A. Simple Deletion. Saying, "I am grieving." Creates the picture of melancholy but leaves out exactly the person or event that is being grieved for.
B. Comparative Deletion. Saying, "Last night was worse." Suggests another unknown object or event of the same type, making a clear comparison with an unclear subject.
C. Unspecified Referential Index. Saying, "He took it." Provides a situation but does not indicate the person who did it and the object that was taken.
D. Unspecified Verb. Saying, "He took it." Has a verb but still does not provide the exact information as to how the taking was done or how the event exactly happened.
E. Nominalization. Saying, "His love is undying." Includes a noun which is a nominalization but cannot be generally labeled. Other similar nouns are friendship, trust, joy, etc.
2. Generalizations. These statements can be arguable because they lack definition and are closed-ended. Several questions requiring a rhetorical response can be raised after the statement. The terms used are absolute, exaggerated or very negative.
A. Universal Quantifiers. Saying, "He never showed me he cared." Can be opposed because the term used is closed-ended and highly unlikely. Other generalized terms are all, only, nothing, etc.
b. Modal Operators of Necessity or Possibility. Saying, "It's impossible at this time." Limits the situation entirely although there may still be possibilities. Similar terms are must, have to, need to, can't, won't, may not, etc.
3. Distortions. These statements are basically unclear and inaccurate. A lot of assumptions are involved which is why your mind tends to create its own scenario and results of the situation.
A. Cause-Effect. Saying, "If he looked at me, I'd die." Shows a cause and effect relationship without a clear distinction of a particular reason. Similar terms include because, due to, if, etc.
b. Presupposition. Saying, "When will you pay your debt?" Indicates the non-existence of payment without exactly having to say the full words.
C. Mind Reading. Saying, "My father was happy with my spending." Shows that you seem to feel or know the same thing as another person.
D. Lost Performative. Saying, "This is the best way to cook fish." Gives importance to a judgment with no distinct authority that has set it.
E. Complex Equivalence. Saying, "My dad sat with me without saying a word which means that he is angry with me." Connects two situations that provide one single thought or meaning. The connection of the events includes terms like therefore, thereby, meaning, etc.
NLP Neuro-linguistic Programming Meta Programs Meta programs in NLP are strategies which you follow through your own representation or model that lead to an outcome. The programs help you make decisions for different situations based on what you've learned in communication, body language and behavior. Since you gain information and subjective experience, meta programs will then enable you to act on these. The way you respond to a situation with the use of past information and experience will be most likely the same way you will respond to other situations in the future. Thus a pattern or strategic approach will develop in you as an individual. Meta programs have various benefits. The strategies or programs will help you define language and behavior patterns that will enhance your abilities and understanding of the world. In turn, you will be more equipped to handle different situations, relate with other people and take advantage of opportunities. All these lead directly to personal success. The pattern is not universal and will differ with each individual. It does not merely incorporate or plant the pattern inside you but will help you develop your very own way of thinking and acting specifically designed to bring out your best traits and qualities. Here are some examples of meta programs.
1. Self Reference vs. Other Reference. In this meta program, you base the information you get and the attention you give only on your own or another person's beliefs and understanding. The choice you make will matter only to you or the significant person your conscious mind is referring to. You should clearly identify your own standards or correlate with another depending on whose opinion affects you more.
2. Association vs. Dissociation. Association allows you to fully indulge in a situation physically, mentally and emotionally. This is highly effective in building relationships and establishing rapport. Dissociation is more concerned with the demands at hand and will deviate from being too emotionally attached to accomplish a specific task. It is effective in dealing with critical situations. You must know that a balance must be maintained in order to attend to a situation effectively and be sensitive enough to respond accordingly. Too much association will make you too attached while too much dissociation will make you apathetic.
3. Best Case vs. Worst Case Scenario. This is a matter of looking at a situation in black and white. It can lead you to become either optimistic or pessimistic. When making decisions, you have to learn how to balance what is real from what is ideal. Some situations may require you to exert extra effort with the possibility of success while others seem easier left undone. The difficult part is others may not feel the same way as you and seeing negative situations can either make you give up or spur you to do more. The program and habitual patterns that you have developed will help you compare more efficiently and make a better choice.
4. Toward vs. Away From. The main idea in this meta program is that people move toward what they want and away from what they don't want. The common problem is that when people move away from what they don't want, they lose track of their true intentions and goals, and thus unconsciously forget what they want. So they move away from one thing but no longer move toward another due to losing sight of their goal. Some things in life will require you to move toward a solution to achieve the benefits after overcoming the problem. The attitudes involved in accomplishing the task still largely involve perseverance and determination.
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